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I have just started the PS 1000 plan and am looking forward to wearing clothes I have not in a while and feeling better about myself, etc. BUT my overweight husband has NO desire to lose weight and I suspect he is not going to go along with our suppers for very long. In fact tonight we had the grass-fed beef/cabbage/tomato dish with roasted carrots. He followed it up by making himself a big ice cream sundae! So for those also in the same situation where you might be the one eating differently from the rest of the family, how have you navigated that? Do you make other items for the family or let them cook for themselves or what?
@Karma Coins: 0I’m in the same situation as you. I already found it difficult to cook for two now that we are empty nesters and that is compounded by me wanting to change up our menu to incorporate new healthy choices. My husband will eat what I prepare but says it leaves him feeling hungry. I compromise by letting him see the menu item and choosing a side to go with it that he likes but I will avoid. He graciously waits for me to be otherwise occupied before he pulls out something to snack on later in the evening. He wasn’t happy when I got rid of junk food out of the kitchen and replaced it with some items that he has put in his home office. I’m hoping that there will be a gradual move over to the healthy side when he sees the success I have been having. Good Luck!
Wouldn’t this lifestyle change be SOOOOO much easier with the full support of our families?
My two daughters normally eat what I eat during lunch (I homeschool) or make their own. I prepare a diet-appropriate supper for four. Sometimes my family will eat it, sometimes they won’t; my husband avoids most vegetables, and my daughters are picky eaters. I usually offer at least one extra side dish that they can eat, but I can’t. Within an hour of supper, my younger daughter and husband are snacking on something (potato chips, cookies, ice cream), sometimes right in front of me!
My husband brings home sodas, doughnuts, potato chips, etc., and leaves them on the kitchen table and counter-tops. I could strangle him!!! I’m in the process of reorganizing my kitchen (it is currently a mess) to make room in one of the cupboards for his treats (out of sight out of mind?) My older daughter, the one with health issues, is more willing to improve her diet than the younger one. The emotional support and mother-daughter bonding that this fosters is precious to me.
Finishing week 3 now. Down 6 pounds and while not as exciting as the loss some others are experiencing, I am already into some of my old clothes and feeling better. 2 pounds a week…well, by spring I will be near my goal! Anyway, about the hubby. So I have my protein and veggies, perhaps a big salad for supper. Hubby will have that along with perhaps potatoes or rice or noodles and then he will go and have a bowl of ice cream with a piece of pie! Yes, he is still buying pies and eating the whole thing! Then at night it is liquor and garbage snacks. No wonder he is 40 or 50 pounds overweight and his blood pressure meds are not holding. But you cannot save someone from themselves! He has no desire to change. At least he is not criticizing me. I rather hope that he will begin to change those destructive habits but not so far. However we have time at this point.
Just finished week 5. My daughters have stopped eating the diet foods with me, unless it’s something they like. It worries me when my older daughter chooses to skip meals rather than eat with the family. I’ve had to resort to making separate foods for them at least some of the time. Just what I need-more cooking!
I’m starting on Monday, drops and all. However my husband is just mainly going to do the dinners with me. I’ve told him that he can have half of the dinner as long as I can have my portion and another set aside for lunch the following day. We shall see how this works. He loves his desserts, but I’m hoping he will wait till I’m in bed before pulling the ice cream out! I’m determined! Hoping to lose enough weight to have success getting pregnant in the upcoming months!
Those are great goals! Lean on your sister for support, as she has gone through this process too!
Wishing you SUCCESS! My husband LOVES desserts too, and I just go brush my teeth after dinner so I am not tempted 🙂I think my husband is going a little overboard to show that he is not going to join me in this endeavor of healthy eating. He will buy bags of chips and other snacks and eat the whole bag. We have not had soda pop around for some time and now he is buying 2 liter pops and drinking them! When we have a salad, he drowns it in high fat dressing. His doctor told him his blood pressure is out of control even on drugs and his response is that he does not care!!! He has not criticized my new habits but certainly is letting me know he will not join me. Meanwhile I have lost 10 pounds and am at one of my old weights and back into some of my old jeans too! Can even tuck in my shirt! Half way to goal! Maybe hubby will come around or perhaps he will wait and be like his sister and brothers who have all had heart attacks. Hope it does not come to that.
I have always been one to make a few different things for dinner even before ps1000. My hubby loves red meat and me and my kids do not. Daughter only likes chicken. Son likes fish and chicken. I make all three and few veggie sides, pasta side and potatoes side. Then I usually have lots of leftovers for myself for a few meals so I’m ok with it. The other night I made two premade meals for myself (chicken chow mein with spaghetti squash and cauliflower stuffing with turkey) and at the same time made hubby steaks. I am lucky that hubby already went in his weightloss journey last year and lost 110lbs so we do not have snacks and junk food in the house ever. It’s really sad when your spouse will not support or help you, it is a big deal and I hope for your hubby’s health problems he decides to choose a healthy lifestyle.
Whew! I am kind of glad I’m not alone in this. Of course I wish we all had 100% support of family and friends but it helps me to know others have similar issues and are still triumphant in their goals to be healthy!
I just started this week. It is important that I don’t force my values and ideals on my husband. As many of you said, your family must want to change for themselves. Unfortunately my husband doesn’t have the same respect for me. Yesterday it was McDonald’s and ice cream, today it was pizza and chips. Tomorrow he will be out of the house so I will have a nice lunch by myself.
He travels during the week, so I have some latitude but I still have to be around all of his junk food that sits in the house all of the time.
I’ve decided to make my own food, tell him what I’m making and then he can figure the rest out. That would work – in theory. Unfortunately he is helpless and hopeless at taking care of himself. So I have to cook his crap food for him too. Unless it involves putting a frozen pizza in the oven or calling for takeout he is useless in the kitchen. He can’t even do a box of mac and cheese. Making food I want and can’t have is rough. I may have to be a little more stern and make him eat my food. If he needs more I guess he will order in?
So frustrating! I’m with you ladies (and gents if you suffer with this too!).
I’ve recently encountered a new problem. It’s bad enough that my husband still drags home chips, pop, donuts, ice cream, cookies, pies, etc. and eats these things with my kids in front of me. Now my children have started raiding my larder of healthy foods; it’s much harder to keep a supply of my PS1000 approved foods in the house. I usually shop weekly because the stores are not nearby. I’m glad that my kids will make healthier choices once in a while, but they are not predictable or consistent. When I purchase more to cover their raids, some of it spoils before it can be used up. Otherwise, I run short by the end of the week. You would think that teenagers would be a little more sympathetic to my needs. Don’t get me wrong-I don’t mind sharing. I DO mind running out of food.
I am glad they are grabbing for good food versus junk! So many kids today eat SO poorly…..
Poor Paula! What a quandary. Happy that the kids are making good choices but your food disappears. Can you have your hubby pick up some approved foods when he drags home the sweets? I guess I’m assuming he is around a store more than you are. What about healthy snacks and food that keep longer – like almonds, clementines, apples and homemade jerky? You could buy more of the almost non perishables. Or the perishables that stick around longer. Carrots keep. Dried approved fruits. Hope that helps!
Hey folks! Just got this from MyFitnessPal. It is an article on what NOT to say to someone losing weight. Perhaps we should send this to loved ones?
http://blog.myfitnesspal.com/5-worst-things-say-someone-losing-weight/
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